What to Say in New York City Family Court: Essential Tips for Success in Custody Cases

Working your way through the New York City Family Court can be daunting, especially if you have an upcoming hearing. Whether you’re representing yourself or working with an attorney, understanding what to say in court is crucial for presenting a persuasive case. This guide offers key insights tailored to the unique environment of NYC courts, helping you prepare effectively and boost your chances of success!

Preparation is Key

New York City courts are notoriously busy and fast-paced, not to mention still catching up on the backlogs from the COVID-19 pandemic, which means you’ll likely have limited time to present your case. The first step to a successful court appearance is thorough preparation. Instead of throwing every possible detail into your argument, focus on the most important points that align with the legal standards of your case. In NYC, especially in family law cases, the “best interest of the child” standard is paramount. Understanding this and other relevant laws is essential for framing your argument effectively.

Understand the Law and the Judge’s Perspective

In New York City, family law judges and court referees are primarily concerned with the well-being and safety of children. It’s important to present your case with this in mind. Start by researching the specific laws that apply to your case—whether it is custody, visitation, or child support. Knowing the legal framework will help you focus your arguments on what matters most to the judge.

Your argument should be concise and focused on key points that directly relate to the legal standards. Avoid overwhelming the court with too much information, as this can dilute your strongest arguments and the Judge will not give you an opportunity to be heard. Instead, develop a clear “through line” or central theme that ties all your points together.

Example: If the central issue is the child’s safety, every point you make should relate back to that theme, such as how the current living arrangements affect the child’s well-being.

Your Argument: Less is More

In a city as busy as New York, judges don’t have time to sift through unnecessary details. Limit your points to the most compelling arguments. If you’re representing yourself, resist the urge to cover every aspect of your case. Instead, focus on the facts and evidence that support your main argument.

When crafting your argument:

- Start with a high-level summary of your case.

- Use the “through line” technique to ensure all your points support the central theme.

- Avoid personal attacks or emotional appeals that don’t contribute to your legal argument.

Pro Tip: Work with a legal coach or consult with a skilled attorney at Mindin & Mindin, P.C. who will make the argument on your behalf. An experienced professional can help you identify the strongest points and anticipate the judge’s questions or concerns.

Know What the Court Wants

Judges in New York City are trained to think logically and analytically. They’re looking for arguments that make sense and are backed by admissible evidence. Before your hearing, think about what the judge needs to know to rule in your favor. Focus on presenting your case logically and clearly, avoiding any irrelevant details that could distract from your main points.

For example, if your case involves a dispute over child custody, the judge will be interested in how each parent’s situation affects the child’s best interests. Highlight facts that demonstrate stability, safety, and the ability to meet the child’s needs.

Pro Tip: Keep your argument child-focused. Judges are more likely to respond favorably if they see that your primary concern is your child's well-being and not your own comfort.

Practice Your Delivery

Taking the time to practice your delivery can make a big difference. Practice speaking clearly and confidently, and make sure you stay on point. If you’re nervous, remember that preparation will help you channel those nerves into a focused and persuasive argument.

If you have an attorney, work with them to understand why they might choose to emphasize certain points and not others. Trust their experience—they know what will resonate with the judge.

Appearing in New York City Family Court can be intimidating, but with the right preparation and understanding of the legal framework, you can present a compelling case. Focus on the key points, understand the judge’s perspective, and practice your delivery to ensure you make the most of your time in court.

Need more help? If you’re navigating the NYC Family Court system and need additional support, consider giving us a call at Mindin & Mindin, P.C. to see how we can help you increase your chances of success.