The holiday season in New York City is a magical time—twinkling lights adorn the streets, festive markets pop up in every borough, and there's a general sense of joy in the air. But for those in an unhappy marriage, this time can also bring added stress and difficult decisions. One question often arises: Should I begin the divorce process now, or wait until after the holidays?

As a millennial divorce attorney in NYC, I've seen many clients ask me about this dilemma. My advice is usually “the sooner you start, the sooner you finish.” Let's explore the factors to consider so you can make the best choice for your situation.

Pros of Waiting Until After the Holidays

Minimizing Stress During a Busy Season

The holidays are hectic enough without adding divorce proceedings into the mix. Waiting can help you avoid overwhelming yourself during an already stressful time.

Financial Considerations

Year-end expenses like gifts, travel, and parties can strain your budget. Starting the divorce process might mean additional legal fees and financial adjustments. Waiting until January could give you a clearer financial picture for asset division.

Preserving Family Traditions for the Kids

If you have children, maintaining family traditions for one more season can provide them with a sense of stability and normalcy.

Avoiding Emotional Anniversaries

By not associating the holidays with the announcement of a divorce, you might prevent future emotional triggers for yourself and your family.

Pros of Starting the Divorce Process Now

Prioritizing Personal Well-being

If your marriage involves emotional or physical abuse, it's crucial to prioritize your safety. The holidays can sometimes exacerbate tensions, making it a risky period to delay.

Reducing False Hope

Waiting might give your spouse the impression that the relationship is salvageable. Being honest about your intentions can prevent misunderstandings.

Avoiding Awkward Social Situations

Holiday parties and family gatherings can be uncomfortable if you pretend everything is fine. Starting the process now allows you to set boundaries and perhaps skip events that add stress or escalate tension with in-laws.

Gaining a Head Start

Initiating the process now means you're one step closer to beginning your new life in the new year. It can be empowering to take action rather than feeling stuck.

Factors to Consider

Your Co-Parenting Relationship

How well are you and your spouse able to cooperate, especially during stressful times? If tensions are high, it might be better to start addressing the issues sooner.

Holiday Plans

Do you have significant plans like a family vacation? Consider how starting the divorce might impact these events.

Support System

Think about how friends and family will react. A strong support network can make the transition smoother.

Financial Readiness

Assess your financial situation. Can you afford to start the process now, or would it be better after receiving year-end bonuses or tax returns?

If You Decide to Wait

Even if you choose to hold off on initiating the divorce until after the holidays, you can still use this time productively.

Educate Yourself**

Research New York's divorce laws, especially concerning asset division, spousal support, and child custody. Understand the differences between mediation, collaborative divorce, and litigation.

Gather Financial Documents

Collect statements for bank accounts, investments, debts, and any other financial records. Having these documents ready will make the process smoother when you do start.

Consult Professional Attorney Advice

Schedule a consultation with us at Mindin & Mindin to learn more about your rights in a divorce. CLICK HERE TO CALL US.

Plan for the Future

- Think about your goals post-divorce. Start budgeting for the changes ahead.

There's no right or wrong answer—only what's best for you and your family. Whether you choose to wait or to start now, being informed and prepared can make a significant difference in your experience. The decision to divorce is deeply personal. Take the time you need to make the choice that's right for you.